Dear Woman Who Replaced Me While I Was Pregnant
You knew about me.
You knew I was carrying his child.
You knew we weren’t over — because we were never given the chance to be.
And still, you chose to involve yourself with a man who had a whole family on the way.
This wasn’t a case of “you didn’t know.” You did.
You just didn’t care.
In fact, you went out of your way to make sure I saw you.
Posting. Hinting. Competing.
As if being chosen by a man who abandoned his pregnant partner was something to be proud of.
It wasn’t just betrayal. It was cruelty.
And you played a part in it.
While I was in postpartum pain, bleeding, barely sleeping, and doing everything alone — you were playing house with a man who had just created a broken home. And you didn’t flinch.
You didn’t care that my daughter would come into this world already wounded by your “love story.”
You didn’t care that I was shattered and alone.
All you cared about was being the one he chose.
But let me be clear:
If he was capable of discarding the mother of his child while she was still healing from labor — then what exactly did you win?
And deep down, I know you wonder if he’ll do it to you too.
You might laugh it off. Post through it. Pretend to be unbothered.
But in the quiet moments — the ones you don’t post — I know the thought creeps in.
Because no woman is fully at peace when her relationship began with destroying someone else’s.
You didn’t win a fairytale.
You helped destroy a foundation that an innocent child was supposed to be born into.
You helped normalize the idea that a man can create life and then walk away from the mess he made without consequence.
And you bought into the lie that love that begins with betrayal will somehow blossom into a happily ever after.
It won’t.
Because the kind of woman who stands by and watches another mother suffer — and calls it love — isn’t a woman to envy.
You knew about me.
You knew about my baby.
You just didn’t care.
And I want you to know this:
I may still be healing, but I’m not the weak one here.
✍🏾 Journal Prompt:
Write a letter to the woman who knowingly became involved with your child’s father during your pregnancy.
Let every emotion speak. What did you want to say then, and what do you want her to understand now?
